Geeta Pandey,BBC Correspondentand
Vishnukant Tiwari,BBC Hindi
Rishabh Rajput and Sonali ChoukseyRishabh Rajput and Sonali Chouksey met in faculty 11 years in the past, fell in love and married final month.
Images and movies from their vibrant marriage ceremony confirmed the blissful couple from the central Indian state of Madhya Pradesh performing rituals and posing of their finery.
However after they shared their happiest second on social media, the congratulatory messages got here peppered with “jokes and memes” with trolls evaluating and criticising the couple over the groom’s pores and skin color.
In India, the place obsession with honest pores and skin color is properly documented and might typically even have tragic penalties, the groom confronted intense on-line shaming and was referred to as names for his “darker pores and skin color”.
The trolls didn’t spare the bride both, with many suggesting she had married him “for his cash”.
“She should have had some compulsion,” one wrote. One other instructed she could not be pleased with a husband like that. Some labelled her a “gold-digger,” claiming she married him for wealth or a safe authorities job with perks. One remark instructed that Mr Rajput’s father have to be “a authorities minister”.
The couple, who married on 23 November, have since gone viral due to the trolling – and their response, as they addressed the criticism head-on. They’ve been sought out by native media and given scores of interviews previously two weeks.
“Folks have been making jokes and memes and it felt very flawed,” Mr Rajput advised BBC Hindi from his dwelling in Jabalpur.
“It was our second and we had waited for it so a few years. It was presupposed to be a cheerful second, however after I noticed folks’s reactions, I used to be actually shocked,” he stated.
“In so a few years that we have now been collectively, no-one had ever advised us that we have been a mismatch as a result of I’ve darkish complexion whereas she is fairer,” he added.
BBC HindiThe nasty feedback left the couple – who each work in non-public firms – reeling.
Ms Chouksey admitted that such feedback “bothered” her. “You assume – is that is how individuals are perceiving us? After they say nasty issues about him or name me a gold-digger, it irritates me.”
In a submit on Instagram, Mr Rajput addressed the trolls: “Sorry to disappoint you. I am not a authorities worker, however I work onerous for my household and need to give them a superb, dignified life.”
He added that Sonali fell in love with him when he had nothing. “From faculty until right this moment, she has stood with me by means of each good and unhealthy second. Folks’s detrimental opinions imply nothing to me,” he wrote.
Mr Rajput additionally addressed the difficulty of colourism within the feedback, saying he had confronted color discrimination his complete life.
“I do know very properly that I’ve a darkish complexion. However in my spouse’s eyes, I’m attempting to be the very best husband I will be, and that’s what issues probably the most. There isn’t any want to talk wrongly about my household.”
Mr Rajput stated he pushed again when the trolls started commenting on one of many images that additionally had his mom and his and his spouse’s sisters.
“I didn’t like the truth that they focused my household. I need to inform them, you’re a no person. And you don’t have any proper to focus on – or troll – anybody’s household,” he stated.
The couple, collectively since assembly in a 2014 faculty zoology class, say outsiders should not choose their lives.
“Our relationship started a 12 months later and we knew from then that someday we might be married. Those that are commenting on our relationship by taking a look at a 30-second video do not know that it captures 11 years of onerous work that we have now put into it,” says Mr Rajput.
“Sonali had all the time manifested that once we get married, our complete village ought to witness it. However right this moment, it looks as if the entire world is watching it,” he says.
That focus, the couple agree, feels good in a manner. However the feedback, Ms Chouksey provides, are hurting their households. “For folks, it could be simply one thing they watch on social media, however it’s our life. And it could possibly destroy somebody’s household.”
The couple have additionally addressed colourism in a number of of their interviews.
“We reside in India the place folks from completely different areas have completely different pores and skin color. And honest pores and skin would not essentially make somebody a superb individual. So, how can we choose somebody on the idea of their pores and skin color?” asks Ms Chouksey.
Mr Rajput says “about 70-80% folks in India have darker pores and skin tones, however the Indian mentality is that fairer is healthier. It is time to change that notion”.
And for individuals who say the couple are a mismatch, he has a query: “If you have a look at us, do we glance even remotely sad to you? We do not. As a result of we have now what most individuals do not have. I’ve her and she or he has me.”


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